About Lori Pollard
Who am I?
I have a Masters degree in Counselling and a BA in psychology. I've been a therapist in education for the last ten years, and I am an adjunct professor at CSU Fresno. I am a mom, friend, daughter, sister and avid yoga student. I love to laugh and to make others laugh, and I just love people in general. Having said that, I carried around a deep sadness and loneliness most of my life, and I know what it feels like to want more, work hard for it, but still struggle for inner peace and happiness. Most of the more successful strategies I've learned and implemented both personally and professionally have not been acquired by any formal education. I believe we can achieve higher and more consistent levels of happiness by learning how to tap into the happiness that already exists within us right now. In my experience, we have not been taught how to allow ourselves to be happy. We are constantly striving for more, and not focusing or tapping into what is good in our lives. We struggle for more money, a better body, better relationships and kids, and then we tell ourselves we’ll finally be happy. Even when we do get what we want, that feeling of happiness doesn’t last for very long, and we end up feeling disillusioned and disheartened. In the meantime, we are keeping ourselves in a state of never being truly satisfied or happy with what is right in front of us and in us. We know we’d be happier if we could just love what we have, instead of wanting what we don’t have, but we don’t know how to do it. I believe most people are unwilling/unable to do this work, because they hold onto fearful beliefs about themselves and their lives that even they themselves are sometimes unaware of. And our brains are wired to habitually think, feel and behave the way we have taught it to feel, think and behave, so even when we’re aware we don’t know how to change what we are aware of.
How do I do it?
I come from the prospective of focusing on current strengths, getting you back into belief patterns that create the emotional state that gives you the confidence to move into an action plan, and then getting results that give you more positive beliefs, more energy and more results. Self acceptance not self improvement is what works. Fear and habitual patterns that keep negative emotions in your mind and body are what is keeping you from getting what you want, not your circumstances, or who you are. This is why traditional therapy has such a high failure rate. It focuses on the problem, not how and what you have in right now that will absolutely guarantee your success. You will be happier faster, change what you want more quickly, and it is less expensive than therapy. I can teach you to open up to a willingness to receive happiness, and to stop searching and struggling for it and against it.
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